Yesterday, I heard something that resonated with me. It was along the lines of, although most relationships die out for a wide range of reasons, there is one common reason shared by almost all failed relationships: You forget to appreciate the small details.
We get so caught up in life. The ins and outs of our every day, the stressors and tensions, all the need tos, have tos, shoulda, woulda, couldas. We get so wrapped up in these things, we often neglect the most important things in life. Our relationships.
It’s really easy to focus on the negative. To blow simple annoyances out of proportion and take the aggression of your work day out on your loved ones. It’s really easy to forget about the simple things, the small details, that make your relationship what it is. Relationships are a choice; you’re not forced to be in any particular one. You are an active participant and have the choice to leave it.
But maybe everyone wouldn’t be so quick to throw away their relationships if they stepped back and took a look at why they have that bond in the first place. What are the small details that made you love this person? What are the little nuances that make your relationship unique? What is it about “you” and “him” or “her” that makes it an “us”?
When life feels too big, remember the tiny things. I bet if we fought harder to focus on the tiny things, albeit small, they’d be strong enough to hold up our relationships when they need support the most.